This story was submitted by Steve who after many life struggles, found his way through the love of Christ. Steve finally & might I say, miraculously now has a second chance to live after receiving his “double transplant”, kidney & pancreas. He does not take this second chance for granted & he is resolved to live the remainder of his life to honor God and his donor by helping others by relating to patients, by trying to encourage them at a point in life when there seems to be no hope. You will see below that Steve’s story is narrated by a social worker who eventually became his friend who was obviously inspired by his faith and will to live….S
My name is Steve. I was interviewed for a friend’s blog in Dec. 2010, 5 months after my double transplant. The blog tells my story and goes into how I got through what I had to get through leading up to my transplants. It’s been a little over a year since my transplants and I’m doing great and have my life back once more. If it weren’t for my God and my donor I know I’d be dead today. I appreciate all that’s been done for me and given to me. I owe a lot to several people for my being here, but my donor’s unselfishness is why I’m still alive. In all I do with my second chance at life my goal is to honor God and my donor. I truly hope that someone can find some kind of inspiration or hope to keep on fighting until their transplant comes. Thanks, Steve….
“Steve? Is that Steve? I was astonished as I looked at Steve’s photos on the internet. Steve’s picture showed him riding his motorcycle. Another picture showed him in a suit, wearing a charming smile. I was looking now at a strong and happy man. A man full of life. That was not the Steve I had met a few years ago. He was one of my residents in the nursing home. After I met him I became more careful at saying: ‘I love working with the elderly in the nursing home’ because he was not an elderly man. Nursing homes, unlike many people believe, are not necessarily for older people, or a place to die. I’ve met quite a few younger residents whose unfortunate path of life and health battles forced them to be in a facility where they can get the care and assistance they need. Steve was one of them. In his thirties, Steve was a frail man, afflicted by kidney failure and diabetes. “I like your drawing!” I told Steve the first time I entered his neatly kept room. The walls were decorated with pictures he had drawn. There were also books, posters, a collection of music CDs, and videos. I learned later that Steve wrote poetry. Art, reading, music… food for the soul, I was amazed. That was a unique room. Steve was a distinctive resident. Over a year I had the opportunity to follow Steve. He was a very delightful and polite man. These qualities were not enough for some other people to have sympathy or to feel some compassion. “He is getting more attention than anyone else!” a resident exclaimed once.” It took time to make others understand that even if Steve was younger than most of the residents, the complexity of his medical condition made him frail and feeble. Steve had several instances, caused by different health issues, which led to his being rushed to the hospital on many occasions.
I learned later that the nursing home was not the only battlefield in Steve’s life. The nursing home was perhaps the easiest one. Steve’s childhood was marked with sad events, starting when he lost his mother at age twelve. Tired of living in a home where abuse, alcohol and drugs were part of the daily routine of his father and stepmother, Steve moved out at age sixteen. Life for him was not better on the streets. For the next three years, Steve was involved in drugs, alcohol and theft. His hot temper led him into physical fights, with his life in peril a few times. The loneliness of being homeless, and later the bitterness of jail time made Steve touch the bottom of misery. One person, only one person, came to jail to visit Steve during his nine-month sentence: his church Pastor. Steve attended the Baptist church on and off. Eventually, his only light became his faith. With the mentoring of his pastor, Steve’s spirituality started to give him strength. And more importantly, hope. Steve had earned his diploma, and with help of his Pastor, enrolled at Baptist Bible College. This is how Steve describes this chapter of his life: “I was kind of worried about starting school so late in life, being 24 at that time, but I was also scared because I knew that I had trouble in high school trying to pass any of my classes. These fears and worries didn’t last long. I actually loved school and was interested in everything I was learning. I was able to find a part of me that I never realized ever existed. I was on the National Dean’s List almost every year that I was there. It was after two years of school that I realized what God wanted me to do. I was to get a Masters in Counseling so that I could help people who were dealing with things in their lives that I had gone through in mine.”
After graduating, Steve lived with his brother and continued his involvement with church activities. At church, he met a woman who later became his wife. After two years of marriage, Steve started to experience serious health problems. Steve was diabetic since age nine. This condition was never a concern for him or anyone in his family. Now Steve was suffering the consequences. As Steve’s health deteriorated, his wife started to have an affair with another man. Steve’s attempts to convince his wife to go through counseling and save their marriage were unsuccessful. One day his wife came to him, and told him she was pregnant with her lover’s baby and she wanted a divorce. As Steve’s marriage failed, so did his kidneys. Steve’s life went into another phase: the nursing home resident. He had no other option but be in a facility where he could have twenty-four hour care. Although Steve resided in nursing homes for five years, he never gave up on his hope of getting his health back, and going back to the community. Now Steve needed a kidney transplant. “During all the many surgeries and sicknesses I went through during the eight years of dialysis and living in nursing homes, I had never lost my faith in God. If anything, I would have to say my faith grew stronger for the simple reason that God had pulled me through things that I was watching other patients die from on a regular basis, things that my doctors themselves never thought that I’d survive. I had however, given all of my health problems over to God and told Him that I accept the fact that He is in control and that I was ready to leave this world at any time if He was ready to take me. It was only then that I stopped fearing death, as I knew what followed, and accepted that eventually it comes to everyone.” In the meantime, Steve had kept a close relationship with his brother. Now a Pastor, his brother was also his spiritual mentor and main support. In later years, Steve’s father became terminally ill. Steve started to visit his father and for the first time share the love of father and son that never was expressed in the past. Their bond was brief, as Steve’s father passed away soon after their reencounter. I left the facility where Steve resided, and learned that he also left soon after that. His health stabilized enough that he was able to move into an apartment, and live as independent as possible. Yet he had to continue his dialysis, with a great deal of uncertainty as he received shocking news:“I was told after several surgeries and attempts to fix my vascular problem, that I had no more good veins in my body that would be strong enough to use and withstand my dialysis treatments. My vascular surgeon told me that I had nothing left that would be strong enough to work with. I was at the end of my rope.”
Against all odds his faith and willpower endured. “It was after my final graft failed and my options had run out that I contacted my transplant center and asked them what my chances of getting a kidney were. I had been told two years prior to this that I would most likely never get a transplant due to having a high antibody level in my blood. I had already been on the transplant list for six years and had several calls to receive transplants but so far every time I went to the hospital I was sent back home because of my antibody level being too high. At this point, I needed a miracle.”
And Steve’s prayers were answered on July 16, 2010. Four days prior to that day Steve received a call from the transplant center telling him to make the trip to St. Louis yet one more time for what would turn out to be the last call for a transplant.. When he arrived, he was immediately admitted. Lab work was done quickly. “The results had come back and they were all good, the operation was going to happen. The excitement, as well as shock, set in at this time. I asked if they could wait a few minutes for my family to get there, and I was told no, it had to happen now. I started praying and thanking God.” Curious about why this transplant surgery was going to work, and where the organs were coming from, Steve asked the doctor about the donor. The surgeon simply explained that the donor was a twenty-year old healthy man who had a seizure that put him in a comma. After determining that the young man’s brain was dead, the family decided to take him off of life support, and asked that his organs be harvested and donated. “The surgeon told me that they held those organs for me specifically because the match was perfect, and that the donor had antigens in his blood which would counteract the high antibody levels in my blood. There was no doubt in anyone’s mind that this was a miracle.” Steve’s humble heartfelt for his young donor. His reflections never stopped: “I felt bad for the young man who was only beginning his life and ended up losing it and donating his organs to someone who had already lived and brought his health issues on himself. Because of this man’s death I was given a second chance at life.” Steve’s family arrived right at the time he was being wheeled to the operating room. Steve got to share a few minutes with them. He was now ready. Steve underwent a kidney and pancreas transplant that lasted a little over five hours. The operation was successful and he recovered quickly. It has been five months since the surgery. Steve is now diabetes-free and dialysis-free.
Steve had recently visited the dialysis center to see the staff that took care of him for years. He had gone to thank them for all they had done to get him where he was. One of the nurses became tearful and told Steve that “no one has ever come back after having a transplant to show their appreciation for what we have done for them.” And to his surprise, Steve was offered a job at the dialysis center. A job that he describes as: “doing the same treatments that were done on me that helped keep me alive long enough to receive my transplant. They believe I can relate to the patients, trying to encourage them at a point in life when there seems to be no hope. I look forward to doing this.” I was speechless when I saw Steve’s photos, as it had been two years since the last time I saw him at the nursing home. I was tremendously touched at learning about his new life, about the miracle of “a second chance at life” as he describes it. Steve, once my resident, now my friend, is one of the most inspiring persons in my life. Happy, blessed and glorious New Year, Steve! By: D. P. – “A Social Workers Blog”
Many thanks to Steve for submitting this inspiring story of hope & endurance. This story reminds me of a quote that I recently ran across & I would like to share it…S
Be at Peace
By: St. Francis De Sales
Do not look forward in fear to the changes in life;
rather, look to them with full hope that as they arise,
God, whose very own you are, will lead you safely through all things;
and when you cannot stand it, God will carry you in His arms.